11 life lessons 2014 has taught me
Every person that criticizes your work isn’t a hater, they may actually be telling you the truth.
In the beginning of this year I had a skincare line. It was tough for me to juggle two brands at once on top of having a full time job. My mentor sat me down and said I think you need to focus on building one brand at a time. Although it was a tough decision I listened and decided that at the moment it was best to just focus on Young Yet Wise. Maybe one day I will go back to focusing on Rule No.1 Love Thyself.
“When you focus on everything, you won’t be able to focus on anything.” (I still create my own lotions and face scrubs since the store brands are filled with chemicals)
Having a mentor is important
Having someone who is more skilled in an area to talk to will only make you better. To all the doers please find someone that can help you take your dreams to the next level. Attend a conference or workshop, a networking event, a webinar. Read a book, interview someone who has more skills in the area that you would like to have a career or start a business in. This is the only way you will grow.
Getting up an hour earlier and creating a morning ritual has really changed my life.
I don’t start my day off by reading the news, or scrolling through Facebook because if I did I would start my day off being sad. Each time I hear about another black person dying a piece of my soul is tainted. Huge s/o to Think and Grow Chick for her morning routine post. Instead I start my day by writing out my goals, reading my declarations, praying, reading a few Bible verses, sending emails and mediating on the positive things I want to happen in my life. After this I hit the gym. It feels so much better starting the day off with myself instead of starting my day off going straight to work. That morning quiet time is so important it really starts my day off to a great start.
Building a team is great, but be sure it’s a reliable team, otherwise just get things done by yourself.
There were plenty of projects that I was working on this year where people agreed to collaborate with me, but later on they backed out. When this happened it made me build more confidence in myself. No one is going to work as hard on your dreams as you are. Not everyone will keep their word and help you when they say they will. Do not build up angry thoughts towards these people, because it will only block your creativity.
Friends fall into different categories.
Some of the friends you have are just there to have a good time. Do not mix up your party friends with your friends who you go to for advice about your brand or business. I’ve learned that there are certain friends I can talk to about certain things. Not everyone will have the same mindset as you. Don’t waste your breath trying to explain your goals and dreams to people that are mentally incapable of seeing your vision. They will only pollute your insides with doubt. Don’t let them. You are capable of doing great things, even if they can’t see it.
Someone else’s success doesn’t take away from yours.
It’s easy to get a glimpse of everyone else’s life and feel like they’re so far ahead of you. Don’t let jealousy creep inside your heart. Instead become friends with successful people. For they are doing something right. They can help you. Encourage them. There is enough money in the world for everyone. If you’re not where you want to be that just means there are certain skills and habits that you need to perfect. You may not be there right now but over time if you continue to work on your craft and your belief in yourself, you will be unstoppable.
Short-term decisions make your long-term goals possible.
I know you may not see it right now, but every choice you make is either leading you to a path of success or a path of mediocrity. I can sit here and tell people workout, save your money, invest etc. but at the end of the day people will do what they want. I can only make the right decisions for myself, and try to help those who want to listen to me. If in 2014 you didn’t reach your goals, it’s because of the decisions you’ve made, don’t make the same decisions in 2015.
Even if people aren’t sorry for what they’ve done, forgive them anyway. It’s better to have peace in your thoughts and your heart than to rot with anger and un-forgiveness. Sometimes people are coming from a place of hurt, and they take this hurt out on you. You can only do so much for people. If you’ve tried to make it work and they aren’t reciprocating you just have to let it go. It’s sad losing people who you thought were good friends, but it will happen. I’ve learned to put more trust in God than into the humans he’s created.
Acknowledge the fear and do it anyway.
As you guys know I wrote a book this year. I was afraid. I’ve never written a book before. Will people read it? Will they like it? I decided that sometimes it’s best to not be attached to the results. Even if no one bought my book I would still feel like a champion because I set my mind on a task, took action, and made it happen. “When your goal is to gain experience, perspective, and knowledge, failure is no longer an option.” Sophia Amoruso
I learned so much about myself by writing my book. I’m glad I didn’t let fear stop me. I’ve gotten so much positive feedback on it and for that I’m thankful. There’s still time to buy my book if you haven’t it will be available until mid January.
Reading/ listening to books and podcasts have become a regular part of my life.
You have to constantly keep feeding you mind with knowledge and inspiration. The things you think about are really important. You have to be sure that your thoughts aren’t just wondering. To keep me on track I listen to audio books, and podcasts. In our brain there’s a constant battle going on between positive thoughts and negative thoughts. If you aren’t careful and aren’t continually filling your brain with positivity than the negative thoughts will win. Remember you become whatever you think about.
I’m not my brand.
Although I’m the heart and mind behind Young Yet Wise I’m still human. I laugh, I cry, I hurt, I party, I dance, I fall for guys with beards, I make stupid decisions from time to time. (That’s right not all my decisions are wise) I’m just like you, so please don’t put me on a pedestal. Many people have told me that I’m an inspiration to them. Which is humbling, but I’m a work in progress. I’m a person building a positive outlet, while trying to balance my own life.
These are just a few things I’ve learning in 2014. What are some things that 2014 has taught you? Cheers to an even better 2015. Thank you for hanging with me for another year. I look forward to growth and prosperity in 2015. Mind, body, soul and bank account be better. Happy New Year!