15 days until my book launches on September 21, 2016 and today I just wanted to reflect on the journey it took me to get here.
In January I met with my mentor Derrick and came up with my goals for the year. The first goal was to get 1,000 email subscribers, and the 2nd goal was to write my 2nd book.
I was frustrated. Why do I have to wait until I get 1,000 subscribers before I write another book? My first investing book I didn’t even have 100 subscribers. I also didn’t want to wait. 1,000 seemed so far away. At the time I only had 401 subscribers and even getting 401 emails was a challenge. How in the world was I going to get to 1,000 subscribers?!
I felt defeated, but Derrick told me “You are going through what I Seth Godin calls “the dip“. The dip is the 90 nos you have to endure to get the 10 yeses that will change your life.”
I had no choice, but to just keep going. I knew that if I wanted to reach my goal of 1,000 subscribers was going to have to do something different.
Over the next few months I had created a free Slay your debt guide to give away, a debt challenge where I helped 10 people pay off $39,500 of debt in 11 weeks, and even created a slay your debt event in NYC. All of which came with their own obstacles.
Hosting my own event in a city that wasn’t even mine was tough. Thankfully I had my friend Cas there to help me plan it. I still wanted to quit though. However,I didn’t want to let people down after I said I was going to do something. My word is all I have and I didn’t want to go back on it.
I left work and immediately called my dad. “Hey you, Miss creating events in other cities and all that, I’m so proud of you.” he said. “Dad, I’m going to cancel my event, no one has bought tickets and the event is two weeks away.” He told me that I couldn’t quit, that it was too late, and that I would just have to keep moving forward even if it wasn’t easy, quitting wasn’t an option. My dad was right, all I could do was continue with the event, which I did and it turned out great.
All my hard work was paying off and on June 22, 2016 I had finally reached my goal of 1,000 email subscribers. I emailed Derrick:
“Wow it took a lot of time and work to get there, but we finally made it. I’m saying we because you were the one encouraging me and guiding me to get here so thank you. Still working on my book outline, but should be done in the next few days.”
Back in January when I set out to accomplish my goals, I had no idea that on July 20, 2016 I would end up losing my father. I’ve had to face many obstacles in life, but none as tough as this one. Some days it still doesn’t feel real. It just feels like it was a nightmare and that anytime I could wake up and things would be back to normal.
On my dad’s last few weeks he kept thinking about his life and all the things he wish he would’ve had the chance to do. The books he wish he would’ve published, the places he wish he would’ve traveled, the lives he wish he could have been more apart of. Regret is so real. We always hear that we only get one life, but when you lose half of who you are it really sinks in.
You get one life, to do what you were called here to do. That’s it. That’s why you must push through when life gives you lemons. When you feel like the struggle is too real. Get up and get to work because someone else didn’t get a chance to accomplish their goals. While you’re still breathing it’s your duty and obligation to at least try.
When bad things happen to you, you can blame the world, you can question God, you can cry, you can be angry, you can be sad, but at some point you have to become your own superhero.
You have to get up and use the grief you have as a drive to fulfill your purpose. Or you could use grief to slow you down and knock you off your path. My dad used to always say “Someone went through this already and they weren’t as strong as me, yet they made it through.”
I had to make it through the pain and continue to work on my book. I couldn’t give up because I know my dad wouldn’t want that. He didn’t raise a quitter.
The truth is that my dad will never leave me because he will always be within my heart. 26 years of love doesn’t ever go away, so he will reside within me. Cheering me on every step of the way.
17 days until my book launches, 1,652 email subscribers and I’m just happy that I didn’t give up. ( You can sign up for my book waiting list here to receive a discount when it comes out on September 21)
I didn’t get knocked off track even when obstacles came my way. Obstacles come your way to prove how bad you really want something. These next 17 days will be days of hustle, but I’m ready.
If I want to live a fulfilled life I must set out and accomplish everything my heart desires because no one makes it out alive. Will you be afraid? Of course. Will you have doubts? Absolutely! Will it be worth it? You won’t know until you go for it.
So what are you waiting for?