“Congratulations, you failed!” my coach said waving her hands out as if the word congratulations had been used as a celebratory phrase in this instance.
I didn’t want to accept the fact that I had failed.
Urghh even typing out that sentence makes me upset.
That I had followed all the rules, did everything the blog posts, and the books and experts had told me to do and yet it still didn’t yield me the results I was looking for.
The reality is that even your favorites aren’t winning ALL of the time.
“Show me a man who has never failed, and I’ll see a man who has never attempted anything.”
It’s easy to talk about your wins, wins are sexy.
Wins are like eating a bowl of coffee ice cream, your losses are like eating a bowl of broccoli.
Sure you know that broccoli is nutritious for you, but you don’t really want to talk about it. You don’t take a picture of yourself eating a bowl of broccoli on a hot summer day using the hashtag #yummy.
Everyone knows that failing is apart of success, but that doesn’t mean that failing gets easier.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to get rid of my email list, stop creating videos, writing blog posts and creating products to help people.
“I just want to focus on helping myself, just focus on my own money.” I thought. Yes these are the selfish, negative thoughts that occasionally cross my mind. These are the thoughts that I must fight.
In the beginning things were so much easier, they were fun, there was no pressure. I was just writing because I felt like it. Yet I was showing up every week.
There was no email list, marketing tactics, social media rules to follow, business expenses. I didn’t even know that I could make money, or that anyone else was writing about money.
It was just me writing about what felt right and trusting my instincts.
I need to go back to trusting my instincts, finding a balance between my passion, what I love to do, and money.
Every time I’m faced with a failure I have to remember why I even started blogging in the first place.
To help people make wiser money choices so that they’re not 50 years old wishing they would’ve took their lives more seriously, saved their money, paid off debt, traveled more, started investing when they were 20, started their own business or even quit that job that they hated sooner.
“Now what are you going to do about it, what did you learn and how are you going to turn this failure into an opportunity?” were the next words out of my coach’s mouth.
I believe these are questions we must all ask ourselves when things don’t go as planned.
Sure it would be easy to shut down shop, to run away and not help anyone but myself. However easy has never been worth it to me.
Failures keep you humble, failures build character. Failures are necessary because they show you what’s not working and what to do differently next time.
No good movie, book, t.v. show, or YouTube series is without some sort of failure or obstacle because it would be boring.
Seriously if Ghost never cheated on Tasha with Angela, wasn’t secretly a drug dealer and never went to prison, would you even watch the show if the characters weren’t faced with some sort of obstacle to overcome?
Obstacles make for a better story. Obstacles give you something to work towards.
So the next time you’re faced with an obstacle you should be happy.
Congratulations, your story just got better.