3 ways to overcome envy and gain confidence in yourself
“Picture a runner in full stride. He speeds through a pack of contenders, but he begins to look at whom he’s running against. What is the inevitable conclusion to this scene? That the runner will slow down and probably stumble. The same will happen to us if we allow the distraction of envy to turn our head as we run the race set before us. Instead of breaking records, we’ll break our momentum.” – John Mason
Maybe it’s just me, but lately I feel as though social media has been hindering my growth. That’s great you just got engaged, or can’t decide if you want to buy an Audi or a Mercedes, but I need to start focusing more on my life and less on everyone else’s. Sometimes we get so consumed in what other people are doing and then we start to compare our lives to theirs. Anytime we compare our life with someone else it puts us in an unhappy place. We have to learn to be happy and thankful where we are. Social media sites also take up so much of our time; a whole day could pass by and we haven’t gained new knowledge, just filled our brains with useless thoughts of other people. Thoughts that may or may not be true. Thoughts that may have been posted to boost their own ego and self esteem. Don’t fall into the trap and get distracted by the hype.
Distractions detract from other useful things you could be doing with your time, things that could be bringing out your full potential. Every few seconds you’re getting updated on people who are either complaining about what they like or don’t like, or people who like to brag about this great life that they’re living or not living. I just don’t want to read it anymore. This week I decided to take a social media break (I will only be posting about my blog and not reading anything else). Right now I’m going to only focus on my life. Go to the gym, read a book, create more designs or just try something new. Live my life for myself instead of everyone else. I’m sure I will be much happier once I just focus on what God is doing in my life, rather than what He is doing in everyone else’s. Free my mind from all the outside clutter of the online world, and learn to refocus and listen to my own thoughts. Although sometimes seeing what great things my friends are doing does inspire me to want to do more. The only person I will be comparing myself to is me. All I can do is strive to be a better person than I was the day before. I can’t measure my success by what others have or haven’t done. All I can do is appreciate how far I have come.
We are all running this race called life. Sometimes we are well trained and will be able to win, while other times we may not be as prepared. We may stumble and someone else may be in the lead, but that doesn’t mean we lost the race. We either win or learn how to improve for the next time. Instead of envying the other runners we can learn to appreciate them, learn from them and strive to run this race together. Then we will realize that comparisons are useless, and they only slow us down.