Money and relationships | help my boyfriend is ruining my money! Money is a huge factor in relationships #1 source of arguments, the wrong person can jeopardize your own financial future. Marrying the wrong person and even dating the wrong person can set you back financially.
She wanted someone who wouldn’t judge her situation, someone she could talk to openly because she was embarrassed. I’m never there to judge my clients or their situations I’m there to be a positive person to listen to them and help them move forward and create a plan and to feel good about themselves. When you have a plan for your money you’ll naturally have more confidence and you’ll just be in a better place. If you’re interesting in a free 10 min discover call I would love to chat about your money? Sign up here.
It’s Important to figure out what your partner’s attitudes are towards money, are they a spender, are they a saver. I wouldn’t ask them this because people may try to be on their best behavior especially at the beginning of a relationship. I feel like this is something that you will pick up over time just by spending time with someone you’ll start to see how they handle their money.
I mean i’m not saying the the first date you’re like “hey can you pass me the bread and by the way what’s your credit score.” Lol But maybe start off by talking about some of your life goals and dreams because this is going to tell you a lot about what’s important to them in terms of money.
Here are a few questions you should ask during the dating stages:
What kind of thoughts did they have about money growing up?
Is there anyone else depending on you financially?
How much debt do you have?
Have you made a plan to start paying it off?
Have you ever filed for bankruptcy, or been in foreclosure?
Do you have an emergency savings account?
What are your thoughts on retirement?
Have you already started investing?
I do believe that there are some red flags that us as women have to pick up on and not just sweep them under the rug because dating the wrong guy can put you behind financially. These are just some things to keep in mind before you fall head over heels for someone. It’s easier to not start a relationship with the wrong person than it is to get out of a bad relationship, trust me I know. Because once you love someone it’s much harder to part ways so the sooner you can figure out the better so you don’t end up in a situation where you love someone even though they’re not good for you because we’ve all been there.
Are there any questions I forgot? What are some questions that you ask while you’re in the dating stages of a relationship? Let me know below!